Because, let’s face it, people can be really difficult to read at times. However, sometimes you can tell something is true—or at least, has the potential to be—without having to hear someone say it. If you’re in a relationship with a man, you might be curious to learn more about some of the strange things he does once he realises he’s found the one. Men can send some very strong signals through their actions. Even if you believe you know for sure that your partner believes you’re the one and sees your relationship lasting a long time, there’s still a chance that you may occasionally doubt things and find yourself searching for some fairly subtle (or super obvious) clues that this really is how they feel. This is because people can be so difficult to read, and it can also be challenging to express emotions.
People tend to act slightly differently in their current relationships than they may have in previous ones, with partners who may not have been as suitable for them, when they feel that they are with the proper person for them. You may or may not gain insight into your relationship from knowing what kinds of things men might do when they realise they’ve met the one, even though it doesn’t mean that they’re acting like a completely different person or that they’re acting differently than the person they truly are.
Should you observe the man in your life engaging in any of these behaviours, it may indicate that they are aware that the individual they are now dating is the ideal fit for them.
1. They Engage in Activities They Never Would Have Imagined
In a healthy relationship, individuals occasionally engage in activities they may not enjoy because they understand how important the other person is to them. However, if he finds himself routinely engaging in activities he probably wouldn’t do otherwise, it may be an indication that he believes he’s found the one. In an email discussion, Anna Morgenstern of Dating Rehab NYC informs Romper that some men, if they believe they’re with the one, may do things like go apple picking, spend the day shopping, or do anything else that looks a little out of character for that specific man. Men (and their partners) enjoy a wide variety of activities, of course, but if they begin to engage in more of their spouse’s interests, it may indicate that they’ve come to the realisation that their partner will be with them for a very long time.
2.They Begin Referring to Them as “We”
They may continue to use “I” comments if they don’t think their partner will remain around, but they will start saying more “we” statements after they come to terms with the fact that their partner is the one. “It’s a positive indication that a guy is serious about the relationship when he starts referring to it as ‘we,'” Dr. Sal Raichbach PsyD, LCSW, of Ambrosia Treatment Centre, writes to Romper via email. This indicates a change in perspective when a man views himself and his partner as a single entity. One of the hardest things to let go of is frequently one’s sense of self. That little change in expression indicates that a man understands that his actions and choices no longer solely define him.
3. They Gained A Number of Pounds
Some guys gain a little weight after meeting someone they believe would stick with them for the long haul, though this is undoubtedly not the case for everyone. According to Morgenstern, this is a sign of comfort level and they are sure they won’t have to make an effort to impress anyone new very soon.
4. They Modify Their Body Language
Romper receives an email from Caleb Backe, a health and wellness specialist at Maple Holistics, informing her that some men alter their body language slightly when they recognise they’ve found the one. They seem more at ease being who they are, responding to situations and expressing themselves honestly.
5. They Establish a Close Bond with Their Partner’s Family
An attempt at intimacy with in-laws, “even if it’s forced and awkward, shows a lot more commitment than the required surface-level interactions on holidays,” claims Raichbach. “It indicates that he not only has genuine affection for his partner but also a strong desire to integrate into the family.”
Maybe he’s realised he’s found the one for him if he’s truly trying to build relationships with your family.
6. They Modify Long-Holding Behaviours
Although it can be challenging to alter your behaviour, some men have a tendency to do so when they realise they have found their true love. “They are playing the ‘long game,’ but only close friends or family may notice these shifts.” In an email correspondence, licenced marital and family therapist Sara Stanizai, MA, LMFT, informs Romper. “They might no longer desire to spend Friday nights out with their buddies. They might begin eating more healthily. They might start a new interest or pastime.” Changes like these can suggest that he feels quite positive that his partner is the one. Of course, the specific ways that he might change will depend on the man and the habits he’s formed over the years.
7. They Report for Duty
According to Backe, some men want to make their spouse proud of them by working harder, being more successful, and achieving their goals after realising they’re with the right person. Morgenstern adds that in order to save money for a ring or their future together, they might put in more effort at work or start looking for a job. Even though it might occasionally be challenging to understand why they are seeking for a new employment, putting in more effort, or pursuing other objectives, it may indicate that they believe they are with the person they are intended to be with.
